Remembering Loved Ones During the Holidays

The holidays are a time of joy, gathering, and heartfelt remembrance. While we revel in the festive cheer, it's also a profound opportunity to remember and honor those who are no longer with us. Embracing the notion that we will always remember our loved ones, it's important to share their stories and legacies during this season.

Such traditions not only keep their memories alive but also allow us to pass these cherished tales onto the next generations. Here are some heartfelt ways to incorporate the memories of loved ones into your holiday traditions, providing comfort and a sense of connection, and inviting you to share your favorite holiday memory of them with younger family members.

1. Create a Memory Ornament -  Crafting a memory ornament is a beautiful way to remember a loved one. You can fill a clear ornament with items that remind you of the person, such as small photos, a snippet of their favorite clothing, or tiny handwritten notes. Each year, placing the ornament on the tree can become a cherished moment of remembrance.
2. Light a Memory Candle -  Set aside a moment to light a candle in honor of your loved one. You might choose a candle in their favorite scent or color. As the candle burns, it can symbolize their presence in your thoughts and gatherings. This simple act can be incredibly powerful, especially during holiday dinners or family get-togethers.
3. Prepare Their Favorite Dish - Cooking a dish that your loved one enjoyed or was known for making can bring a sense of closeness and comfort. Share the meal with family and friends, and perhaps use the time to share favorite stories or memories about the person, keeping their spirit alive through shared connections and cuisine.
4. Donate in Their Name - The holiday season is often about giving, and making a donation to a cause your loved one cared about can be a meaningful tribute. Whether it’s a charity, a community center, or a local arts program, this act of kindness is a positive way to honor their memory and impact.
5. Create a Memory Book or Board -  Compile photos, letters, and mementos into a memory book or on a memory board that you display during the holidays. Family members and friends can add to it each year, making it a living document that grows with new memories and stories, enriching your loved one’s legacy.
6. Visit Their Resting Place - Taking time to visit your loved one’s grave or the place where their remains are kept can be a part of your holiday tradition. You might leave flowers, a wreath, or a small holiday decoration. Some find peace in talking to their loved one during these visits, sharing updates or expressing thoughts and feelings.
7. Play Their Favorite Music - Music can evoke powerful memories and emotions. Playing your loved one’s favorite songs or albums during the holidays can feel as if they are right there with you, enjoying the season. It’s also a wonderful way to introduce younger family members to the person’s tastes and interests.
8. Write a Letter  - Writing a letter to your loved one can be a therapeutic way to articulate your feelings, updates, and wishes. You can read it aloud, keep it in a special place, or even create a ritual where you burn the letter, sending the words to them like a message.
9. Share a Story or Memory - During holiday gatherings, set aside a time to share stories or memories of your loved one. This can be done informally around the dinner table, during a toast, or as part of a more structured family remembrance time. Encourage others to participate by sharing their own memories, fostering a collective remembrance that bridges generations.

While the absence of loved ones can be particularly poignant during the holidays, finding ways to celebrate their life and contributions can offer a profound sense of connection and continuity.

These traditions not only keep the memories alive but also integrate them into the joy and communal spirit of the season, ensuring that those we miss continue to be a part of our holiday celebrations.