Death Literacy

The National Reflection Room® is Now Open at Beechwood Cemetery

nmccarthy — Fri, 13 Dec 2024 15:18:01 +0000

The National Reflection Room® is Now Open at Beechwood Cemetery nmccarthy Fri, 12/13/2024 - 10:18:AM

We are thrilled to announce that the National Reflection Room® is now open to the public at Beechwood Cemetery, Canada’s National Cemetery.

Located in the tranquil setting of Beechwood’s mausoleum, this dedicated space offers a unique opportunity for quiet reflection, healing, and connection. Designed for all Canadians, the Reflection Room® invites you to honour loved ones, reflect on legacies, and share your experiences with grief, loss, and remembrance.

As a participatory art installation, the Reflection Room® encourages visitors to read and write about their journeys with grief and healing, creating a shared space where stories can connect us all. This initiative, developed in collaboration with the Saint Elizabeth Foundation, SE Research Centre, and the Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Association, is a testament to the power of remembrance and the importance of creating spaces where everyone can find peace and connection.

As Nicolas McCarthy, Director of Marketing, Communications, and Community Outreach at Beechwood, expressed: “Grief and remembrance are deeply personal yet universal experiences. The National Reflection Room® provides a meaningful way for Canadians to find peace, connect with their heritage, and honour those they hold dear.”

We invite you to visit the Reflection Room® today and experience this serene space for yourself. Whether you come to reflect, write your own thoughts, or simply find a moment of peace, this room is for you.

Location: Beechwood Cemetery, Mausoleum (280 Beechwood Ave., Ottawa)
Hours: Open during regular cemetery hours

Come and be part of this journey of reflection, healing, and connection. Together, we honour the past, find solace in the present, and create a legacy of remembrance for the future.

Death Literacy

December 13, 2024

Honouring, Remembering, and Reflecting: Foundation Collaboration Brings the National Reflection Room to Beechwood Cemetery

nmccarthy — Thu, 12 Dec 2024 16:16:59 +0000

Honouring, Remembering, and Reflecting: Foundation Collaboration Brings the National Reflection Room to Beechwood Cemetery nmccarthy Thu, 12/12/2024 - 11:16:AM

In our nation’s capital, there are reminders of remembrance most places you look. Beechwood Cemetery, Canada’s National Cemetery, officially added another way for the public to reflect, heal, and connect with the launch of the National Reflection Room on Dec. 12. This dedicated space, located in Beechwood’s mausoleum, offers Canadians a unique place for quiet reflection, remembrance, and connection. Designed for all those seeking to honour loved ones and reflect on the legacies that shape our national story, the Reflection Room® is a participatory art installation where people can read and write stories about experiences with death, dying, grief and loss.

The launch marks the beginning of a year-long journey for the National Reflection Room, which will also serve as a pop-up installation at Beechwood events throughout the year. As a space accessible at various commemorative and community events, the Reflection Room symbolizes a commitment from Beechwood, Saint Elizabeth Foundation, and the Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Association (CHPCA), to remembrance and connection across Canada.

“Seeing the Reflection Room® grow from a way to deal with pandemic-related loss during COVID-19 lockdowns to now having an installation in Canada’s National Cemetery is a testament to our collective commitment to making remembrance a part of our lives, every day of the year,” said Nancy Lefebre, COO, SVP, SE Health. “This collaboration with Beechwood Cemetery and the Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Association is another way our Foundation is helping to offer in-reach services to people across the country.”

Originally developed in 2016 by the SE Research Centre in collaboration with Memorial University, the Reflection Room integrates expertise in end-of-life care, grief, and bereavement, offering a tranquil space for people to reflect on the importance of legacy, healing, and connection in our lives.

“Grief and remembrance are deeply personal yet universal experiences,” said Nicolas McCarthy, Director of Marketing, Communications, and Community Outreach at Beechwood Cemetery. “We are honoured to open the National Reflection Room in collaboration with the Saint Elizabeth Foundation, SE Research Centre, and CHPCA. This space will provide a meaningful way for Canadians to find peace, connect with their heritage, and honour those they hold dear.”

About Beechwood Cemetery

Beechwood Cemetery is recognized as the National Cemetery of Canada, offering a space for remembrance, honour, and connection to the Canadian public. Beechwood serves as a resting place for Canadians of all backgrounds and is home to the National Military Cemetery of the Canadian Forces, RCMP National Memorial Cemetery, and various sections that celebrate the diversity of Canadian heritage.

About the Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Association

The Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Association is the national voice for quality hospice palliative care in Canada. It serves to advance hospice palliative care across the country by providing education, raising awareness, influencing public policy, and collaborating with provincial hospice palliative care associations.

About the Saint Elizabeth Foundation

The Saint Elizabeth Foundation is a national registered charity that supports end-of-life journeys for Canadians most in need. Our goal is to empower communities through thought leadership, knowledge exchange, education, and strategic investment, with a special focus on people who are structurally vulnerable, Indigenous Peoples, and grief and bereavement programs.

Saint Elizabeth Foundation. Supporting end-of-life journeys for Canadians most in need. Visit foundation.sehc.com. Contact foundation@sehc.com

Death Literacy

December 12, 2024

Remembering Loved Ones During the Holidays

nmccarthy — Wed, 04 Dec 2024 15:18:33 +0000

Remembering Loved Ones During the Holidays nmccarthy Wed, 12/04/2024 - 10:18:AM

The holidays are a time of joy, gathering, and heartfelt remembrance. While we revel in the festive cheer, it's also a profound opportunity to remember and honor those who are no longer with us. Embracing the notion that we will always remember our loved ones, it's important to share their stories and legacies during this season.

Such traditions not only keep their memories alive but also allow us to pass these cherished tales onto the next generations. Here are some heartfelt ways to incorporate the memories of loved ones into your holiday traditions, providing comfort and a sense of connection, and inviting you to share your favorite holiday memory of them with younger family members.

Create a Memory Ornament - Crafting a memory ornament is a beautiful way to remember a loved one. You can fill a clear ornament with items that remind you of the person, such as small photos, a snippet of their favorite clothing, or tiny handwritten notes. Each year, placing the ornament on the tree can become a cherished moment of remembrance.
Light a Memory Candle - Set aside a moment to light a candle in honor of your loved one. You might choose a candle in their favorite scent or color. As the candle burns, it can symbolize their presence in your thoughts and gatherings. This simple act can be incredibly powerful, especially during holiday dinners or family get-togethers.
Prepare Their Favorite Dish - Cooking a dish that your loved one enjoyed or was known for making can bring a sense of closeness and comfort. Share the meal with family and friends, and perhaps use the time to share favorite stories or memories about the person, keeping their spirit alive through shared connections and cuisine.
Donate in Their Name - The holiday season is often about giving, and making a donation to a cause your loved one cared about can be a meaningful tribute. Whether it’s a charity, a community center, or a local arts program, this act of kindness is a positive way to honor their memory and impact.
Create a Memory Book or Board - Compile photos, letters, and mementos into a memory book or on a memory board that you display during the holidays. Family members and friends can add to it each year, making it a living document that grows with new memories and stories, enriching your loved one’s legacy.
Visit Their Resting Place - Taking time to visit your loved one’s grave or the place where their remains are kept can be a part of your holiday tradition. You might leave flowers, a wreath, or a small holiday decoration. Some find peace in talking to their loved one during these visits, sharing updates or expressing thoughts and feelings.
Play Their Favorite Music - Music can evoke powerful memories and emotions. Playing your loved one’s favorite songs or albums during the holidays can feel as if they are right there with you, enjoying the season. It’s also a wonderful way to introduce younger family members to the person’s tastes and interests.
Write a Letter - Writing a letter to your loved one can be a therapeutic way to articulate your feelings, updates, and wishes. You can read it aloud, keep it in a special place, or even create a ritual where you burn the letter, sending the words to them like a message.
Share a Story or Memory - During holiday gatherings, set aside a time to share stories or memories of your loved one. This can be done informally around the dinner table, during a toast, or as part of a more structured family remembrance time. Encourage others to participate by sharing their own memories, fostering a collective remembrance that bridges generations.

While the absence of loved ones can be particularly poignant during the holidays, finding ways to celebrate their life and contributions can offer a profound sense of connection and continuity.

These traditions not only keep the memories alive but also integrate them into the joy and communal spirit of the season, ensuring that those we miss continue to be a part of our holiday celebrations.

Death Literacy

December 5, 2024

Death Dialogues: Preserving Family Heirlooms

nmccarthy — Mon, 28 Oct 2024 13:17:55 +0000

Death Dialogues: Preserving Family Heirlooms nmccarthy Mon, 10/28/2024 - 09:17:AM

Death Dialogues: Preserving Family Heirlooms with La Maison D’Or

Jewellery as Family Heirlooms

Powerful Emotional Connection: Jewellery is more than just an accessory; it serves as a tangible connection to family history and identity. Whether it's a grandmother’s wedding ring or a father’s watch, these items have the ability to evoke deep personal memories, carrying stories from one generation to the next. They serve as a reminder of family traditions, significant life events, and personal milestones.
Unique and Irreplaceable: Unlike other assets, jewellery often has a unique design or sentimental origin that makes it irreplaceable. Even though its monetary value may change, its emotional value remains constant across generations.
Financial Value: In addition to sentimental value, jewellery can also appreciate in monetary worth, especially if it contains precious stones or metals. Certain heirlooms might also become valuable antiques over time.

How to Prepare Your Future Family Heirlooms

1. Assign Jewellery to Individuals: This should be a thoughtful process. Consider the relationship each family member has to the item, each family member’s personal taste and style, and not just the monetary value of the pieces. Some pieces may have sentimental connections to certain individuals because of shared experiences or memories.

Written Documentation: Create a legal document that outlines the intended distribution. This can be part of a will or a separate heirloom designation list.
Communicate Your Decisions: Where appropriate, share your decisions with family members to ensure transparency and avoid potential disputes after you're gone.

2. Catalogue Items with History: Create a detailed inventory of each item, including photographs, descriptions of the piece, its history, and any appraisals. This will ensure that future generations understand the item's significance, origin, and value. If there is a particular story attached to the item, include this to ensure this story gets passed down to the next generations.

Digital Records: Consider creating a digital catalogue where all relevant documents (photos, receipts, appraisals) are stored. This can be shared with family members.

3. Consider Gifting Beforehand if You Are Not Wearing Them: Rather than waiting until after you pass, gifting jewellery while you are still alive allows you to enjoy the moment of giving and share the story behind each piece. It also gives you the chance to see how your loved ones appreciate the heirlooms. Please do not do this if you are still enjoying the pieces yourself, you should wear and enjoy your jewellery!

4. Keep Jewellery Safe: Store high-value or sentimental pieces in a safe or a safety deposit box to protect them from theft or damage. Consider insuring particularly valuable pieces.

Regular Maintenance: Ensure that jewellery is regularly cleaned, inspected, repaired, and maintained. This will help preserve its condition and value over time. Visit a reputable jeweller for cleaning and advice.

5. Enjoy Your Jewellery: Heirlooms don’t have to be locked away. Wearing and using them regularly keeps them as active parts of family life and ensures they continue to create memories.

Things to Avoid When Planning

Focusing Only on Equal Value Distribution: Distributing jewellery based solely on financial value can create conflicts if emotional attachment to the items isn't considered. A piece that holds immense sentimental value for one family member may not be as valuable to another, so it’s important to discuss these factors openly.
Refurbishing for Future Recipients: While resizing or updating pieces to fit new owners might seem practical, it can also change the integrity of the heirloom. It’s often better to pass on items as they are, so future generations can choose how they would like to wear it.
Taking Family's Current Thoughts Too Literally: Family members’ opinions on heirlooms may change over time. Someone who has little interest in a particular piece now might value it deeply in the future as a connection to their loved ones. Don’t rush decisions based on present preferences.
Avoiding External Pressure: Estate planning is a personal process. Don’t let external pressures or family disagreements rush your decisions. Take the time to plan in a way that reflects your wishes and family values.

Estate Executor’s Management of Heirlooms

1. Initial Consultation: Meet with a trusted jeweller to determine which pieces need professional appraisal. Some items may not need an appraisal if it’s just for estate purposes.

2. Review Your Goals: Before moving forward, clearly outline your goals. Is the executor’s concern dividing the jewellery equally among heirs? Or is it ensuring that certain pieces go to those who will treasure them the most? These decisions will influence the next steps.

Open Dialogue with Family: Engage in a conversation with family members about their expectations or feelings regarding specific pieces. This can help avoid misunderstandings and conflicts later on.

3. Certified Appraisal: Once you’ve decided on the significant pieces, have a certified gemologist or appraiser evaluate them. This is particularly important for tax reasons, the estate is subject to division among multiple heirs, or you're considering selling certain pieces.

4. Filing Appraisals in Estate Information Return (EIR): Ensure that the appraisals are documented and included in your estate filing for tax purposes. This also helps ensure that the jewellery’s value is fairly distributed among heirs.

5. Distribution of Estate & Value: After the appraisal and documentation, determine how to distribute the pieces. Some families choose to distribute based on the sentimental attachment, while others may focus on equal value. Plan for both approaches to ensure fairness and harmony.

What to Do When You Inherit Jewellery

Family Dynamics: Be mindful of the emotional dynamics at play when inheriting jewellery. Family members may have different expectations or sentimental attachments to the same pieces. Being prepared for open, honest discussions can help ease tensions.
Friction Points: Jewellery can become a source of friction in family estates, especially if there is no clear plan in place. Misunderstandings about distribution can lead to disputes, so careful planning and communication are key.

Estate Heirloom Revitalization

Adjustment & Repair: When revitalizing family heirlooms, there are several considerations:
Realistic Expectations: Understand the limitations of the piece. What kind of repairs or adjustments are possible, and how will they impact the look and integrity of the piece?
Longevity of Repairs: Certain restorations may prolong the life of the piece but could require ongoing care and maintenance. Consider how you will wear this piece, e.g. will it hold up to everyday wear, only special occasions etc...
Budget: Restoration can be expensive. Determine how much you're willing to invest, everyone has a different benchmark and some will consider the monetary value of the item when making a decision.
Preserving Originality: If a priority, maintain the original design of the heirloom. Overly altering an heirloom might cause regret.

Options for Revitalizing Family Pieces

Custom Settings: One way to modernize heirloom jewellery is to reset gemstones into a new design. This approach allows you to create a custom piece that reflects your personal style while maintaining the family connection.
Custom or Non-Custom: Depending on your preferences and budget, you can opt for a fully custom design or choose a more affordable non-custom option that still honours the original piece.
Reusing Materials: Some heirlooms might not be in wearable condition, but their stones can be repurposed into new jewellery for future generations. Metals can be reused but in a more limited fashion without compromising the integrity of the revitalized piece. Speak to a jeweller for options.

The True Custom Process at La Maison d’Or

1. Ideas & Sketches: Start with brainstorming sessions and sketches that capture your vision for the custom piece. Tell us your story, we will always respect the sentimental value of the heirloom.

2. Model Stage: A 3-D Model of the design is created for you to approve before the final crafting begins. This way you can try it on and ensure that the design aligns with your expectations.

3. The Reveal: After the piece is completed, we love presenting you the finished piece. This moment can be incredibly meaningful, especially when transforming a cherished heirloom into a modern, wearable piece.

This provides a beginner guide to preserving and managing family jewellery heirlooms. From careful planning and documentation to revitalization and distribution, each step ensures that these meaningful pieces continue to create memories for generations to come.

This Factsheet was developed in collaboration with La Maison D’Or based on the October 22 2024 Presentation.

La Maison d’Or in Orleans is more than just a jewellery store; it is a beacon of quality and family tradition in the jewellery business. Celebrating its 45th anniversary and the 75th anniversary of the Harden family's involvement in the industry, La Maison d’Or is renowned for its custom, high-quality products crafted with expert precision. Since opening in 1985, the Orleans location has become a symbol of the Harden family's dedication to exceptional craftsmanship and personalized customer service. The origins of this legacy trace back to 1949 when Bill Harden Sr. and his wife Julie established Harden Jewellers in Hawkesbury. Under their mentorship and that of their aunt Kay Assaly, their sons expanded the business, eventually opening multiple locations, including the notable La Maison d’Or in Place d'Orleans. Today, La Maison d’Or in Orleans continues to uphold the family’s commitment to excellence, offering customers a unique and trusted shopping experience.

Death Literacy

October 29, 2024

Navigating Grief: Finding Comfort Through Healing Activities

nmccarthy — Wed, 23 Oct 2024 12:12:26 +0000

Navigating Grief: Finding Comfort Through Healing Activities nmccarthy Wed, 10/23/2024 - 08:12:AM

Grief is a deeply personal and complex journey that affects each person in different ways. It often comes in waves, sometimes when we least expect it, and can leave us feeling lost, overwhelmed, or disconnected. While there is no “right” way to grieve, there are healthy ways to process and cope with loss. One important step is finding activities that offer comfort, space for reflection, or a connection to the memory of our loved ones.

Here are three activities that can help you navigate grief and find healing:

1. Journaling: A Path to Understanding Emotions

Writing can be a powerful outlet for emotions during times of grief. Journaling allows you to express your thoughts and feelings in a non-judgmental space. You don’t need to follow any set format or structure—let your emotions flow onto the page. Write about your memories, your emotions, or even letters to your loved one. Some find it helpful to look back at these entries over time, as it can help to track how grief evolves and provide insight into the healing process.
Tip: Start by setting aside 10-15 minutes a day to write. Let yourself be as open and honest as possible. Writing without fear of judgment can be a liberating way to process your feelings.

2. Engaging in Nature Walks: A Grounding Experience

Nature has a calming and restorative effect on the mind and body. Taking a walk in a peaceful, natural setting can help ground you in the present moment and offer a sense of calm when grief feels overwhelming. Whether it's a local park, a forest trail, or even a beach, connecting with nature can provide clarity, perspective, and a reminder that life continues around us, even in the midst of sorrow.
Tip: While walking, focus on your surroundings—the sound of leaves rustling, the smell of fresh air, or the sight of trees swaying in the breeze. This mindful approach can offer relief from the constant thoughts of grief.

3. Creating a Memory Box: Honoring the Past

A memory box can be a beautiful way to honor and celebrate the life of your loved one. Fill it with items that remind you of special moments shared together—photos, letters, keepsakes, or anything that holds significance. When grief feels too heavy to bear, opening the memory box and reflecting on these cherished memories can bring a sense of comfort and connection.
Tip: If you feel up to it, invite family members or close friends to contribute items to the box. Sharing stories and memories together can be a healing experience and a reminder that grief does not have to be faced alone.

Finding Your Own Path

While these activities may help you in your journey through grief, it’s important to remember that healing takes time and everyone’s path is different. Some days will be harder than others, but creating space for yourself, whether through writing, nature, or honoring memories, can help guide you toward peace. If you or someone you know is struggling with grief, don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or professional counselors. There is no shame in reaching out for help when needed—it is a vital part of the healing process.

By focusing on activities that nurture the heart and mind, we can take small steps toward acceptance and healing. Whether through quiet reflection, time in nature, or honouring memories, these practices offer solace in a time of sadness.

Death Literacy

October 24, 2024

The CSIS National Memorial Cemetery Planning E-Book

nmccarthy — Wed, 07 Aug 2024 17:29:28 +0000

The CSIS National Memorial Cemetery Planning E-Book nmccarthy Wed, 08/07/2024 - 01:29:PM

A memorial to those who served courageously in the shadows.

The CSIS NMC serves as an outward appreciation of the service of CSIS and its current and former employees.

Eligibility - The CSIS National Memorial Cemetery is open to current current and former CSIS employees,members of the Pillar Society (CSIS Alumni Association), and those who may meet the criteria of the CSIS NMC Committee, and their respective families..

Preplanning your cemetery arrangements is one of the most thoughtful and considerate gifts you can give to your loved ones, because it relieves the burden of making difficult and expensive decisions at the time of grieving,
and lets you set your own legacy.

It really means:

Sparing your family from making hard decisions at an emotionally stressful time;
Lightening additional grief at the time of loss;
Ensuring your decisions are informed and thoughtful;
Choosing the specific items you want at today’s prices.

Download the CSIS NMC Planning E-Book and learn the simple planning process today!

Death Literacy

September 17, 2024

The Ottawa Police Service Memorial Cemetery Planning E-Book

nmccarthy — Tue, 06 Aug 2024 12:33:26 +0000

The Ottawa Police Service Memorial Cemetery Planning E-Book nmccarthy Tue, 08/06/2024 - 08:33:AM

Recognize Your Honour, Courage, and Service.

In October 2011, the Ottawa Police Association and Senior Officers’ Association, with the support and collaboration of the Ottawa Police Service and The Beechwood Cemetery Foundation, initiated the development of the Ottawa Police Service Memorial Cemetery. This initiative was later strengthened by the partnership of the Ottawa Police Veterans Association, contributing to the historical and event-based efforts at Beechwood.

The cemetery serves as a lasting tribute to the members of the Ottawa Police Service, providing a place where their dedication and pride in their service are publicly displayed. It also offers a central location for their families to be buried and visited for generations to come.

It really means:

Sparing your family from making hard decisions at an emotionally stressful time;
Lightening additional grief at the time of loss;
Ensuring your decisions are informed and thoughtful;
Choosing the specific items you want at today’s prices.

Download the The Ottawa Police Service Memorial Cemetery Planning E-Book and learn the simple planning process today!

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August 28, 2024

The RCMP National Memorial Cemetery at Beechwood Cemetery Planning E-Book

nmccarthy — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 16:52:51 +0000

The RCMP National Memorial Cemetery at Beechwood Cemetery Planning E-Book nmccarthy Mon, 07/29/2024 - 12:52:PM

Recognizing the Courage of Your Service.

Located in the heart of the National Cemetery of Canada, the RCMP National Memorial Cemetery at Beechwood is the ideal final post in the National Capital region for all RCMP colleagues and their loved ones.

Eligibility - The RCMP National Memorial Cemetery at Beechwood is open to current RCMP employees, members of the RCMP Veterans’ Association (RCMPVA), those who meet the criteria of the RCMP Veterans’ Association, and their respective families.

It really means:

Sparing your family from making hard decisions
at an emotionally stressful time;
Lightening additional grief at the time of loss;
Ensuring your decisions are informed
and thoughtful;
Choosing the specific items you want
at today’s prices.

Download the RCMP NMC Planning E-Book and learn the simple planning process today!

Death Literacy

August 6, 2024

Empowering Families: A Guide to Children Attending Funerals and Burial Services

nmccarthy — Wed, 05 Jun 2024 13:42:35 +0000

Empowering Families: A Guide to Children Attending Funerals and Burial Services nmccarthy Wed, 06/05/2024 - 09:42:AM

Deciding whether to bring children to a funeral is a challenging and emotional choice. Parents often worry about their child's understanding, behavior, and emotional well-being. However, involving children in the funeral process can be an important step in their comprehension of loss and the cycle of life.

Ultimately, as a parent, you must decide what feels right for your child. There is no one-size-fits-all guide or advice. We hope this guide provides you with some answers and questions to help you make the best decision for your family.

Let's explore some considerations to help you decide.

Can Children Attend Funerals and Burials?

Yes, children can participate and attend funerals and burial services. While some families may prefer a child-free environment during these solemn occasions, many welcome the presence of children. If you're uncertain, ask a family member or close friend. Often, children were important in the lives of the deceased, and their presence can bring closure to the child.

At What Age Should Children Attend Funerals or Burials?

Age isn't the sole factor; it's about the child's understanding and readiness. Child psychologists suggest that most children develop an awareness of death by age 8-10, but even younger children may have varying degrees of understanding.

Should I Take My Children to a Funeral or Burial?

Deciding whether to take your child to a funeral or burial requires thoughtful consideration. Assess your child's temperament, the nature of the ceremony, and their own desires. Involve them in the decision-making process and provide age-appropriate explanations to ease any apprehensions.

What If I Don’t Want My Children at the Funeral or Burial?

If you decide not to bring your child to the funeral, explore alternative ways for them to say goodbye. These could include visiting the cemetery later, creating a memory book, or engaging in an activity to remember the person.

Should Children Attend a Family Member’s Funeral?

For children who shared a close bond with the deceased, attending the funeral can help provide closure and offer an opportunity to pay their respects. It allows them to understand they are not alone and that their feelings are shared by others. A sense of community is always important.

How to Explain What Happens at a Funeral or Burial to Children?

Simplify explanations about the funeral and burial process, ensuring they understand the basics without overwhelming them with complex details.

Many locations, like Beechwood, offer Venue Guides or Social Stories. These tools break down the funeral and burial process into steps and can help anyone understand what is happening.

How to Make Funerals and Burials Easier for Young Children?

Tailor your approach based on your child's individual needs and preferences. Prepare them for what to expect, involve them in meaningful ways, and consider getting the support of an adult to assist them during the service. It's okay to leave during the service with your child to walk around, go to the bathroom, or ensure they don't get overwhelmed. If the funeral home knows ahead of time that there will be many children, they can provide a quiet room as well.

Should Children Be Shielded from Death?

While shielding children from death may seem protective, involving them in the funeral and burial process can encourage compassion and understanding, preparing them for life's realities. Understanding that people can be sad or find joy in special memories can help your child with their own sense of loss. Being surrounded by family and friends can show your child they aren’t alone and have people they can talk to who feel the same way.

Are Children Allowed Time Off School for a Funeral?

Schools typically accommodate requests for time off to attend funeral or burial services and can offer support to help children cope with grief upon their return. It's good to advise the teacher of a loss to ensure proper support. If the child has lost someone close, such as a parent or close family member, it may be beneficial to speak to the school and get more time away to grieve. However, as a parent, it's important to check in with your child to make sure they are ready to go back.

What Should Children Wear to a Funeral?

Following standard funeral and burial practices, children are often dressed in black or dark clothing to reflect the solemnity of the occasion. However, it's not necessary and not something to stress about during this period. It might be better to make sure the children are dressed comfortably.

Does Beechwood Provide Anything for Children Attending a Funeral?

Beechwood’s Echo the Fox is a companion for children during funeral services, a comforting presence to hold and cuddle when things get confusing or difficult. Given during the funeral services, children are invited to cuddle with their Echo whenever they feel sad or miss their loved one. Echo’s purpose goes beyond the funeral services; he can be used as a teaching tool to open conversations about death and the grieving process. Please advise the funeral director of the number of children expected to attend.

Deciding whether to involve children in funerals is deeply personal and requires careful consideration of various factors. By engaging children in age-appropriate discussions and providing support tailored to their needs, parents can navigate this challenging terrain with sensitivity and compassion, ultimately fostering their children's understanding and resilience in the face of loss.

Death Literacy

June 13, 2024

Honouring Life: Exploring Different Types of Funerals and Memorials

nmccarthy — Mon, 06 May 2024 13:31:54 +0000

Honouring Life: Exploring Different Types of Funerals and Memorials nmccarthy Mon, 05/06/2024 - 09:31:AM

Memorial and funeral services hold profound importance in the grieving process, offering solace and support to those left behind while honoring the life of the departed.

These ceremonies provide a structured framework for expressing grief, sharing memories, and finding closure. They offer an opportunity for friends and family to come together, offering comfort and strength to one another during a time of loss.

By gathering to celebrate the life of your loved ones, family, friends and guests not only pay their respects but also affirm the significance of the individuals' existence and the impact they had on others.

Beechwood has prepared this simple eBook help you delve into the various types of funerals and memorials

Take the time to read about:

The importance of ceremony;
How funerals help navigate grief;
The various types of funerals and memorial services;
The Importance of personalization;
And additional information about our services.

Click here to learn more.

Death Literacy

May 23, 2024